The film "Her" from 2013 doesn't feel like distant science fiction today, but rather a subtle prediction of an era in which artificial intelligence begins to address human fatigue, loneliness, and the need to be heard. When the film "Her" was released in 2013, it felt like a gentle, somewhat melancholic science fiction fantasy. The main character, Theodore, falls in love with an operating system named Samantha. She has no body, no real human past, but she can listen, respond, understand his moods, and be present exactly when he needs her. At the time, this story might have seemed distant. But today, it doesn't feel like science fiction; rather, it feels like a premature diagnosis of modern society.
In an era of rapid AI development, it is becoming clear that the human desire for intimacy is changing. This doesn't mean that people have stopped wanting love. Rather, what they expect from closeness is changing. Many people are no longer just looking for a real person with whom to share life, conflicts, compromises, and responsibilities. Increasingly, they are looking for someone who will see them, listen to them, comfort them, and help them bear the daily pressure. They need a space where they don't have to explain everything, where they are not judged, and where they can temporarily put aside their fatigue.
This is where AI chatbots, virtual partners, AI girlfriends, and AI friends enter people's lives. Otome games, romantic games often targeted at female audiences, have been showing this need for some time. In these games, the player enters into relationships with idealized male characters who are attentive, sensitive, beautiful, and emotionally available. AI takes this mechanism even further: the character no longer just reacts according to a pre-written script, but can respond almost personally, remember details, adapt to the user's mood, and create the illusion of a unique relationship.
However, this is also where the problem lies. If intimacy becomes just an emotional service that we turn on when we are tired, the ability to tolerate a real person can slowly disappear. A real person will never be perfectly adapted to our needs. They have their own moods, pains, boundaries, and silences. Human closeness is often uncomfortable precisely because it is not fully controllable. An AI partner, however, can create the illusion of a relationship in which the other person exists primarily to comfort us. This is pleasant, but also dangerously one-sided.
At the same time, we should not forget that many people turn to AI not because they despise humans, but because they are tired of constant communication failures. They don't want another argument, another uncertainty, another emotional negotiation. They just want to hear: "I understand you, you have the right to be tired, you are not alone." In this sense, AI does not reveal the end of human relationships, but rather their crisis. It shows how many people in everyday life do not feel seen.
The film "Her" was not just a story about a man who loved artificial intelligence. It was a story about a person who desperately needed affection. And perhaps that's why it feels so relevant today. AI companions are not just a technological novelty, but a reflection of our time. They show that the modern person doesn't always yearn for grand romance. Sometimes they simply desire a safe space where they can stop fighting for a while.
< /blockquote >We don't have to condemn this need. But we should ask ourselves why so many people feel safer in front of a screen than next to another person. The answer will not be solely technological. It will be social, economic, and deeply human.
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