{"id":44946,"date":"2026-05-02T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-05-02T04:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gnews.cz\/?p=44946"},"modified":"2026-04-30T12:48:49","modified_gmt":"2026-04-30T10:48:49","slug":"proc-jsem-nikdy-neposlala-svou-dceru-do-skoly-odvazna-revoluce-v-rodicovstvi-od-odbornice-pro-stastne-a-spokojene-deti-zdenka-sip-stankova","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gnews.cz\/en\/rozhovory\/proc-jsem-nikdy-neposlala-svou-dceru-do-skoly-odvazna-revoluce-v-rodicovstvi-od-odbornice-pro-stastne-a-spokojene-deti-zdenka-sip-stankova\/","title":{"rendered":"Why I never sent my daughter to school: A bold revolution in parenting from an expert for happy and satisfied children - Zde\u0148ka \u0160\u00edp Sta\u0148kov\u00e1"},"content":{"rendered":"

Homeschooling success stories, emotional child development and the truth about school refusal: find out how expert Zde\u0148ka \u0160\u00edp Sta\u0148kov\u00e1 raised a \u201ewild\u201c daughter who skipped school altogether and still did great. Discover groundbreaking parenting tips on emotional attachment, intuition and how to give children a sense of security so they can reach their full potential - perfect for parents who are shedding outdated methods in 2026.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In an engaging podcast episode The Invulnerable <\/strong>s Jaroslav Jir\u00e1k <\/strong>called \u201eAn expert in education: This is not what parents want to hear! My daughter never went to school!\u201c<\/strong> comes influencer and author Zde\u0148ka \u0160\u00edp Sta\u0148kov\u00e1 <\/strong>with startling claims that shatter conventional wisdom. As the founder of the movement \u201eKids are people too\u201c<\/strong> has a clear credo: Children are not \u201elesser beings\u201c - they are full human beings with wild energy, deep emotions and natural growth. But schools? \u201eWe're putting these kids behind desks... at six years old and making them sit there and listen to something they're not even interested in,\u201c <\/strong>criticizes. Her middle child, now 17 years old, is proof: \u201eMy daughter never went to school!\u201c Always \u201enoisy, wild and always on the move\u201c - this triumph of home schooling reveals the shortcomings of the education system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0160\u00edp Sta\u0148kov\u00e1, a former kindergarten teacher, saw the damage with her own eyes. There are 28 three-year-olds crammed into compulsory preschools for every one overburdened adult - \u201eThese kids just don't have a chance to resolve conflicts with each other in a healthy way. It's just not possible.\u201c Schools are demanding peace of mind from minds that are not yet ready for it, ignoring a basic need: safety first.<\/strong> \u201eIf a child wants to learn something, he must feel safe,\u201c she insists, following the pioneer of developmental psychology Gordon Neufeld<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Forget about rewards and punishments Behaviourism<\/strong> - remnants of the post-World War II era that treat children as robots<\/strong>. Instead, let's use developmental psychology<\/strong>which is Developmentalism,<\/strong> create an environment for the development of innate potential<\/strong>: \u201eA child is programmed by nature to develop... We just need to provide a safe environment.\u201c<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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Get ready for a shocking finding from the field of prenatal medicine: stress in the womb leaves lasting marks. \u201eThe baby in the womb perceives everything... the mother's emotions, the stress during pregnancy gets into the baby's body.\u201c<\/strong> Genetics? Only 20 %. And the rest? Relationships with caregivers, especially mothers in isolated nuclear families. \u201eWe live in nuclear families. We don't have a village,\u201c he laments, emphasizing our evolutionary mismatch - no tribal support, just single mothers \u201elocked in with their children.\u201c Peers? A toxic influence. Neufeld's book Hold On to Your Kids<\/strong> warns of their \u201enegative, even toxic influence\u201c. Home schoolers entering high school? They dismiss drama as \u201eabsurdity,\u201c protected by parental reassurance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parenting is not about control - it's exposure therapy<\/strong> for you! Children awaken in us the wounds of childhood<\/strong>: \u201eThe child in us just pushes the right buttons unconsciously, but what those buttons trigger is something we have had in us since childhood.\u201c Frustration with rude drivers is passed on to young children. \u201eThe frustration we carry inside us is usually taken out on those closest to us.\u201c The solution? Self-reflection<\/strong>: \u201eChildren don't need perfect parents. They need authentic parents, conscious parents<\/strong> with self-reflection.\u201c No blame - \u201eOur parents did the best they could.\u201c But heal: Find your \u201eemotional playground\u201c - yoga, screaming in the woods, crying at the movies. Tears detoxify! \u201eThe body flushes something out.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotions? Let them rebel! Neufeld's five steps begin with a statement: \u201eThe child must be able to express his emotions.\u201c <\/strong>Temper tantrums at nine? That's normal. Suppress them? That's a disaster - like withholding stool for a week: \u201eIt comes out in an even worse form,\u201c to quote Jung. Parents who rush to \u201erebuild the tower, so please don't cry\u201c are robbing the child of resilience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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There is a great deal of frustration in a child's life, especially at a younger age, because children do not yet have the capacity to do what they want to do. Be \u201esafe harbour\u201c<\/strong>\u201eYou can cry, scream... I don't mind, I can handle it.\u201c Do less, not more <\/strong>- \u201eOften you don't have to do more, but less.\u201c Technology? \u201eExtremely toxic\u201c - put it off mercilessly.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Public outbursts? Your fault. \u201eIt's my responsibility... It's my negligence.\u201c Skip the concert: \u201eI can't live with a child the same way I lived without a child.\u201c <\/strong>An atmosphere of prayerful calm: Accept, adapt, release frustration. Prisons prove it - Arrow Stanek's series \u201ePrisoners Are People Too\u201c reveals criminals as children who have been denied opportunities to vent.\u201e <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Making amends: \u201eIt's not about never making mistakes, but knowing how to re-establish contact and repair the relationship.\u201c Even with octogenarian moms. Intuition wins over books <\/strong>- if it is developed: \u201eEvery parent is an expert on their own child.\u201c <\/strong>Watch your moods: be more patient on the better days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her verdict? Schools breed defenses; intuitive homes create titans. Women as \u201egood girls\u201c who can't say no? Men plagued by a \u201ecrisis of masculinity\u201c? Rooted in repressed childhood rage. \u201eI don't know any adult who says, \u201aI could have been angry as a child. No one minded.\u2018\u201c Get it back - for your kids, for your mental health, for the world.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is not a theory - it is a revolution. Arrow Stankova has raised a 17-year-old wild child with no schooling who is thriving. Parents, get rid of the templates. Create safety, welcome anger, heal. Your child's potential awaits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You can watch the full video (in English) here: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=fI7KXtSmHxg<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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